Last July 20, 2014, GMA News TV’s Reel Time presented their latest documentary about single mothers who were able to survive despite of bringing every responsibility that two people needs to share – hence, a father and a mother, in that case. I was featured along with my son on their #Solo episode, with two other single mothers, businesswoman and actress Bettina Carlos and 37th Gawad Urian Best Actress Angeli Bayani.

Reel Time presents #Solo. Credits to Reel Time Facebook page.

There are estimated 14 million "solo" or single parents in the Philippines, men and women combined. For whatever reason, these people are on their own because of a death of a spouse, separation or abandonment, previous adulterous relationship, and other circumstances that made them a mom and dad at the same time. Being a single parent also entitles you to series of problems related to finances, time management, child discipline and decision making.

Being a single mom to my only child gives me a lot of realizations in life. Since the day that I was on my own, I learned to be independent. I learned to think of the things that would benefit not only me, but also my son. When he came to my life, I started not to think of myself anymore. Whenever I buy something, my list would consist of things for him. I rarely buy my own stuffs. I mostly use what I have before, and make sure he gets what he needs and what I want for him.

When me and Carlisle's father broke up, I never thought that I would be alone since then. I never think of him being 'that' kind of person - one who would run away from such big responsibility. I was filled with fear, anger, disappointment. Acceptance came late in me that I needed to be confined to a hospital due to dehydration. I had Hyperemesis gravidarum, an uncommon disorder in which extreme, persistent nausea and vomiting occur during first trimester of pregnancy.

I came to a realization that I'm living not only for myself now, but also for my little one. I got up, got discharged from the hospital and since then, I ate everything that I want to eat. I take care of myself. I got back to work (yes, while I'm on my second trimester), and saved my salary and earnings for my delivery date and needed things.


On the morning of March 31st, I gave birth to a healthy baby boy that I later named Carlisle Von Patrick. Where did I get his name? Carlisle - a fictional character from the movie, Twilight; Von - a mutual name that I and his father agreed; and Patrick - from my favorite cartoon character Patrick Starfish. I was too overwhelmed of the fact that despite of being alone, I managed to give birth to a healthy and amazing creature. At last, I got someone that I can claim of as my own.

Did his father know that I already gave birth? Yes. That's what social media is all about. Bring news to the people that you want to disappear. Inform someone with something that you don't want them to know. I can't forget his Facebook message three days after I gave birth.

"Congratulations. Sorry."